If your answer to part 1 of this series Happiness and Responsibility was that you are not happy, then why aren’t you? You have heard the expression, it is not what happens to you, but how you deal with what happens to you that is important. And so it is with happiness.
In my twenties, I had a good friend who said to me; make me laugh Delece, to which I did so immediately. While she was laughing to what I had said, I began to reflect on the many times she had actually asked me this question. ‘Why can’t you make yourself laugh?’ I asked. ‘I am not funny like you are,’ she responded.’ It is not about being funny,’ I replied. ‘It is about being truly happy within yourself, no matter what. ‘I can make you laugh temporary, but you have to make yourself happy and be responsible for it yourself.’ I said. My good friend protested reminding me of all the bad things that had happened in her life, I nodded, as I had heard all her sad stories before; but they were no worse than any of my other friends and myself. In fact, they were not even bad, just lousy things that happens to all of us from time to time. I mean; we can all go on about that horrible workmate, that person who ripped us off, oh the list it does go on, and on. I sure could tell you a few stories about some real horrors in my life. However, at the end of the day, irrespective of what happens to us, it is how we act towards circumstances in our lives that will give us better outcomes. We can have true happiness within ourselves, we just need to control our emotions.