In my last blog, ‘Dream it, Action it, and be Realistic – Part 1 of 3’, I said:
• that it was week four of 2014 and time to get moving on your goals.
• it was easier to achieve goals and dreams by reducing them to smaller, more manageable units and dealing with them bit by bit.
I showed you how it could be done in three-month blocks by working on your goals and projects, reviewing and refining them on a regular basis. This would make achieving your more realistically sized goals easier than tackling (and usually failing) a couple of larger, ‘set in stone’ New Year’s resolutions.
By now, you might be wondering where I have been and why haven’t I been blogging the next part of the series. You have every right to ask these questions, as it appears I have left you with only one third of the series completed. However, as they say, the best-laid plans often go astray. The positive outcome of my troubles has been that you get to see whether I practise what I preach -‘if you stuff it up, fix it up; learn from it and move on.’
However, what if circumstances are totally out of your control? By using my circumstances as an example, let me explain why you basically do much the same thing.
The first reason for not blogging is that my laptop (still under warranty) has broken down for the third time in six months. Was I assertive when I told the company that I thought their policy (try to fix the products three times before considering refunding a customer’s money or providing a new product) was ridiculous? Definitely!
My second reason for not blogging is that soon after the computer incident, I became quite sick.
Both situations were out of my control and there was nothing I could do about it. Nevertheless, I was determined to apply my own formula to both situations and to learn from them. When I bought the laptop, it appeared to be a great product. In hindsight, it would have been much smarter if I had familiarised myself with the policies of the company’s after sales service prior to purchasing the product – not afterwards. From now on, I will be checking out all after service assistance before I buy a product.
In the case of my illness, it was out of my control. Therefore, I had to acknowledge that and let myself heal before moving on.
Had this been a New Year’s resolution, I would have said, “Oh bugger it! I give up. I won’t write anymore blogs because the laptop keeps breaking down and I just feel too sick to care at the moment anyway.”
However, in reality, things break down and people get sick. Whether this laptop is ever going to be any good or not, it is not going to stop me from achieving my goals. All this incident has done, is to delay me a few weeks in getting underway with my plans for this wonderful year 2014.
If I have to, I will buy a much better laptop next time and continue putting my dreams into action by moving on with my writing and storytelling. This is but a small bump in the road and why should I make such a big deal out of it? The easy answer is that sometimes it is ‘the small stones in the shoes of the mountain climber and not the big mountain ahead that stops them from reaching the top’. My mountain is writing and speaking in English when it is not my native language. I don’t go on about it but I find it is quite annoying when the laptop has prevented me from doing what I had planned.
What about you? What bumps in the road have you encountered so far this year? Turn them into challenges, no matter how small or big they are. Never give up; never give in. If you dream it, action it and be realistic about it, you can fix it or get it fixed, learn from the experience and move on.
There are also times in life when moving on means leaving things altogether to proceed in a completely new direction. That is simply being realistic. Whether this is a job, a situation or a particular person who might be holding you back, moving forward often involves leaving things that no longer serve us. But be brave and take the step that begins the road to inner peace and success.
Here’s to a more productive life, everyone!